I’m so happy because my friend Sharae suggested that I start a blog. In fact, she had assumed I already had one. I asked myself why I hadn’t started one and here I am.
I didn’t think anyone would really be interested in what I had to say, but that was before I started working at Shotgun Willies. Now, I think a lot of people would be curious to know the inside scoop of the strip club.
I never ever, ever expected myself to work in the sex industry (especially since I don’t have giant breasts). Before working as a stripper I only knew the stigma and stereotypes of the job. Now after a year of dancing, I can see where my misconceptions were and I want to share them. Maybe it will help another girl who is thinking about joining the industry. Or maybe it will educate the patrons that come in. Maybe through this knowledge, we can improve the industry altogether. I’d like to see it more about talent and less about jizzing. There are many things to consider, but throughout this blog I will mention everything. But if you have any questions, that would help me outline everything so don’t hesitate to leave comments!!
Before I got into stripping, I thought strippers were dirty, lazy, uneducated, hyper-sexual, fake, law-breakers and drug-addicts who escort on the side (and big boobs were mandatory). Shotgun Willies showed me a different side. I was shocked at how many natural breasts I saw, and how many gowns were on stage. I was amazed at how many moms I met too! Women who are happily married, nurses, and students! I had no idea that there were so many amazing women supporting themselves this way. I was so inspired. I started reflecting on myself…
What makes me non-stereotypical?
- My personality- introverted with some social anxiety
- My small breasts- don’t want a boob job either
- My intelligence- One associates degree in Liberal Arts, & two universities (all spanning 5 years past high school). All 3.5GPA and up the entire way.
- My sexuality- I consider myself a grey-asexual. Meaning, I am in between sexuality and asexuality, leaning closer to asexuality.
But a year into stripping I’ve learned why I am successful despite all that…
- Confidence- no matter how antisocial I really am, my confidence draws people to me.
- My body as a whole- having such a background in dance has kept me fit and I’m just really lucky- I got hips.
- My strategies- using your smarts to keep track on what works and what doesn’t leads to success.
- My dance ability- it’s my passion and I’m actually kinda good.
- My will to keep improving- I continue taking pole dance classes and participating in the club’s dance team.
All in all, I am so lucky that my club exists because it created a space for someone like me to be successful. I am not willing to escort or do full service work. But I can still be successful in the industry. The owner (who is a woman) keeps the club very safe for the dancers. Cameras and an open private dance area keeps “shenanigans” from taking place. Topless only and no touching. It’s not about sex, it’s about the show. The dancers are priority. I hope more club owners can manage their own clubs similarly in the future to allow more women like me to succeed.